Q & A:Author Helen BrownQ: Did your close friends respond to your tragedy in the way you hoped or were they too intimidated to know how to approach you?A: We were in such a state of shock I had no expectations of anyone at the time. The only previous experience of death I’d had was of elderly relatives. Losing Sam was out of my realms of understanding.Q: Was it difficult for you to ask for help?A: Yes, it was because I had no idea what sort of help I needed. I thought the pain would last forever and my life was over.Over and over again people said “Let me know if there’s anything I can do”. I know they were sincere but I was too bewildered to have any idea what needed “doing”.Q: Were you at any time angry with the world or envious of the lives of friends that appeared so much easier than yours?A: Absolutely. The anger was irrational for several months. It rose like molten lava in me if I saw one of Sam’s friends at the supermarket. Every other family I saw seemed smug and untouched by pain. It took a while to come to terms with my own rage and understand nobody escapes loss and pain in their lives. If I was looking for proof all I had to do was open a newspaper.
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